Someone does something that affects your life negatively.
It could be anywhere on the spectrum of mild to severe.
It affects you. You think about it. You know the person was wrong. Others that you speak with agree with you. You’re having trouble not thinking about it. You feel the need to know that the other person knows they were wrong and that they apologize for their actions against you.
That’s a totally normal feeling. We like to know that the world is a right and just place. We like to know that others are served proper justice or at least understand that what they did was wrong and that they’re sorry for it.
That might happen. You might feel a little better. But in many cases it’s still difficult to move on.
Many people talk about the importance of focusing on what you control in life. It’s easy to understand, but not always easy to practice. The reason it’s not easy to implement in your life is because of situations like this.
If someone does something negative to you, you feel it. Deeply in some cases. If you follow logic, you forget about needing the person to apologize and you do your best to move on. You do this because you know that it doesn’t matter what the other person does going forward. It only matters what you do. The act has already been done. It can’t be undone.
The best thing you can do is to forgive them and move on. They’re going to deal with their life however they deal with it. They may never think about it again. They may think about it all the time. It doesn’t really matter when it comes to you. The choices you make will affect your future.
So the next time someone does you wrong, forgive them and move on. I know it’s not easy. But for your own sake it’s the best choice you can make.